I simply love the "Vodafone Delights' tag line "Isn't it nice when someone makes you feel special?"
I guess we all feel nice when we are given differential treatment. So how about being someone else's reason of delight or even just giving them their due respect?
I am sure you would have heard the quote 'Do unto others, what you want others to do to you.' Be nice to people around you. Everytime we interact we people, remember that a smile, a wink, a raised hand, a small pat on the back, a firm handshake...that's all it takes to show your appreciation. A lot of times, we tend to believe that such small gestures dont make any difference. Think again, I am sure you would think otherwise.
I agree that while at work, it might be someone's duty to do a particular job and doesn't call for a 'thank you'. Yet, we should try to be polite with all those we interact.We should respect everyone and not look down upon anyone. As a team manager would agree, every team member is important in the team. Everyone in the team is like a piece of the jig-saw puzzle and the picture wouldn't be complete with each one of them. Just imagine a day when your maid wouldn't turn up, your office boy or the house keeping guy is on leave....the job they do isn't easy. So, respect that!
A lot of times, we might be facing the wrath of someone for no fault of ours. At times, with so much pressure, frustration and despair all around us we tend to lose our temperament and shout, even abuse people for a something they do which upsets us. Look around, incidents of Road Rage is on the increase. Any provocation and our emotions just erupt like a volcano. It does not get square if we vent out all our frustration on someone else.
Let me clarify that being polite doesn't mean being a soft rubber that anyone can tread over you. If your team meber is not doing what he is supposed to do and deserves a dressing down, the same should be done in private and not in an open forum. I strongly believe that being polite and giving respect is a sign of strength and not weakness. Be strong, take charge of your emotions and channelise your energy. I know, its easier said than done.
What is your take on this ? Do post your views....
truly second you on this Bhupesh ...Politeness is the art of choosing among one's real thoughts ....well written! (suggest u too start ur NGO "Being Polite" just like Salman Khan's "Being Human" :)
ReplyDeleteThanks Rashid for sharing your thoughts...well on the thought of starting a NGO "Being Polite"...it wouldn't be possible without your support :)...another thought which comes to my mind on this subject -
ReplyDelete"Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength." ~ Eric Hoffer
rightly said bhupesh!!!I acknowledge the practical application of this blog subject matter in your personal life,I have always found you polite.
ReplyDeleteIn the present world sometime your over politeness will be considered as your weakness,therfore your politeness should be persuasive & convincing for other....Keeep writting
Thanks Neeraj for sharing your views and kind words for me :)
ReplyDeleteGood work. All I want to add is that there is a very fundamental reason to avoid negative outbursts: They have a substantial negative effect on our bodies - you can feel the bio-chemical chaos happening when you get into angry and rude states..
ReplyDeletei agree truely agree with u in saying " being polite and giving respect is a sign of strength and not weakness" as says a line in hindi poem "shama shobhati ussi bhujang ko jiske pass garal(poison) ho, usko kya jo vissh rahit vineet aur saral ho." nice work..
ReplyDeleteInteresting read ... But i feel that these days politeness is mistaken for weakness more than strength .. Especially at work ... What say ?
ReplyDeleteSorabh
I have seen you as being one of the very few people who practice what they preach...
ReplyDeleteGood to read your blog boss...its good...
I am pretty irregular on my blog, but I hope you like what you read...
mine is http://prateeksayz.blogspot.com
Dear Bhupesh. Gratitude is always important, yes, though i know that I have never been polite with mine's team....but your thoughts are wonderful eyeopener. I have recently moved to spiritualism from being religious. Probably, getting more inclined towards Buddhism, where God Buddha once told we all are buddha, just we need to enlighten ourselves..WE ARE WHAT WE THINK. After reading your blog, yes its evident we have to be polite all the times and should have gratitude towards everything god has given to us WE ARE EXTREMELY LUCKY to have all the comforts of this world...still we have rages rather ugly rages inside each of us. ~ Puneet
ReplyDeleteOne of the greatest victories you can gain over someone is to beat him at politeness.
ReplyDeleteHi Bhupesh,
ReplyDeleteI really appreciate this!! but i'm sorry to say these days in corporate culture people take you for granted if you are polite and soft spoken as this is just a gesture lik any other and as u said in last it should be your strength and not weakness, they take this as the weakness and when u wantto overcome of this they blame u lik any thing that u r changed and now being rude. This is my experience which i'm sharing wid u.and then next tym u have to be little conscious b4 acting any hting..but anyways i lik ur thought and message and will follw the same but ...
One thing i also wan to share that i've also met some people who are so polite and kind whom i met so i always try to follow good things and it is just the matter of exp also which u get!!
hey thanks for sharing your disagreement...that's precisely what i said, it is seen as a sign of weakness...it is not just in the corporate world but everywhere...however, you cant change the before in front of you, but when you start being nice to others, make be this makes a small but nice change around us....happy to read your comments...thanks once again
DeleteSir, I am just following the guidelines which u taught me.
ReplyDeleteOne Day, when you visited the agency and you told me to give respect and be polite with your peons also..
Keep sharing the bolgs...